All of us have our past. It’s a chain of phases with lots of memories. At times we feel if we could live some more of it the way it was. At times we feel if could stay there and never come out of it. The college days, the job hour, the fun We'd with so many learning and so many cribbing. Once we part from this clouds that already finished raining and left no trace to follow back, the cribbing turns into smile and affection towards the same things.
At some part of life we like someone so dearly, we wish to gain the same attention back. We try hard at least to give a try. It works out for some time for everyone but then if it’s not meant it doesn't happen. Farewell is painful. But it’s the road to a new start. But what to do in this situation. . .?
All of us are not open to everyone. Some parts of us remain hidden. For some sharing his kiddo attitude could be mystery and for some one family matters are so personal and sensitive that he/she doesn't open up to everyone. There might be so many hesitation to open up cuz once you do, what if things goes wrong and you turn up regretting that you once share the unexplored side of you.
This mysterious part of us is shared with someone especial. Someone whom you know will be worth it. Or won't be of any lost. Someone who will understand it, treasure it more than anything. Or with someone who will just be harmless to share with. We share with someone who is close like best friend, a girl friend or a boy friend, a good silent listener - harmless, a good advisor - 'tell me all about you’ type.
We are lucky to find that person with who we can be ourselves but what if we lose them at one point of time? Remember if things that are not meant to work out for long term it won't. E.g. You broke up with your girl friend. She was the only one whom you shared your family problems. Next time when you call her, will not share your problem cuz she is no longer your girl friend or will you share your problem cuz you know she has been the one who understands you?
21 comments:
Niddzzi
To begin with it, I loved the idea behind this post.
It is perfectly true... there are sides of our personality that we dont share with anyone apart frm few special ppl coz we knw they will understand and will nt judge us on the basis of the secrets or the stuff tht we share.
I felt a huge void wen I lost one such friend but then like you said, I moved on... I think there was a reason I met tht friend and since it was fulfilled, we parted ways... :)
*Wonders jabsey Niddzzi PG mein shift huyee hain, she has started taking more n more philosophical stuff*.. good though :)
it may sound a bit philosophical, but sometimes certain ppl come into your life just to teach you a few things , they always hold special place in your life just for those moments, so savour them...they may not be with u anymore, but u shld always remember them with a smile..
take care!
Amit
every person has his/her particular relevance in life.They were meant to be with you for that time only.If they have lasted till date,that means it was meant to be.You know thinking about all this is just beyond human psyche,at times.For me its easy to call it destiny.
As regards sharing family problems with your gf/bf, I do not believe in that.She aint your wife yet,and occupies altogether different position in your life away from your family.She still has a long way to go,before she shares all this with you.(that's my take on this,feel free to differ).
who needs an ear... one should be his own "tell me 'bout u" personality.
Why to confine in others and regret later. no thing is a secret once let to a second year. people come n go n thts the eternal truth.
Feeling nostalgic eh??
A good question at the end of the post...sharing with your ex's
well i feel it totally depends on what note you parted away.I feel sharing depends on the fact the how well u were connected that person.If the base was strong then i feel it will be good to share with that person.As you part away priorities change and that y people hesitate from sharing...only if we act according to our age can we share...
Nidzzi,
Life's ever changing. People come, some stay, some leave. Everyone has an impact on your life. Maybe someone, even though he/she may not be that important to you, makes you realize a side of you that you may not know.
Things like this makes you comfortable with them, because only they know that part of you. If you do lose a person whom you were very comfortable with, it's always better to take it for what it is, a beautiful experience that lasted for the time that it did.
Even with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you shared something with them because you were in a relationship with them. But if such an understanding was there even when you two were not dating, then the sharing of secrets is not lost, because THAT bond started way before the two of you started dating.
@Shaunak-- completely agree with u. if tht comfort label was there the relationshio wud have never started. once it is started things cant be change.
well said.
@Harshita -- yes i completely forgot that what we should treasure that we met that person. . tune meri aakh kholi di. :)
@Hopeless Romantic -- u said exactly hew Harshita has Put it.
i think we all should agree upto this point that what matters was the person in our life and the good time we had. some ppl come in our life for some purpose
@Chitwan-- difference in thinking. ur wife wud be ur fren first with whom u comfortable to share all your feelings. Thats what i think
@Aevi -- tera kya kehena, tu sab se alag hai.
No can win u, u r strong in emotions unlike general Girls
@Rakesh -- whts ur age??? :D hehe Kidding
good post...and well...we share stuff with that special someone be it a bf or even a blogger friend like u or my neighbour in my hostel...we share because the timing makes it right to share...and if it doesn't work out...it's meant not to work out, right?
as Harshita said..treasure the people who came into your life and made such a difference that u feel a void when they are gone....so treasure them so well that they will never go away from u :)
Its not so easy to find that someone with whom you can just be yourself with...
once you found them, what matters more than the nature of the relationship is the way in which the 2 people care for each other...
as long as that is there, the nature of conversations hardly changes :)
thats my take on it..
nice post Nidzzi :)
hmm..since i am calling my ex,i am assuming the break up was mutual.So if she was the one who understood me then i wud definitely tell whatever it is as long as she is comfortable and willing to listen...
Having seen so many diff love stories around me i wouldnt be suprised when my GF (or my wife for that matter) says she has a past.Would i like to know abt it?...may be a little bit (who? when? where?) but i wud certainly dont want her to tell me everything..frankly i wont be comfortable ...I wud say whatever is it bury it in the past and lets plan for the future.At the same time i wouldnt tell her everything either not that i wud lie or hide a terrible truth or sumthing but i wud tell her its in the past and let it remain there itself...
i dunno if i am making sense ..but this wat i will do........
btw its indeed a thought"full" post...I am so drunk with my own thoughts now :P
I believe it is so very much individual. I most cases once the person for some reason is not that close to us anymore, we will not open up to them. And surely not to your ex. Considering that hardly anyone stays in good terms with their ex.
I think it is tough to let go of the person and things and emotions we had shared with them once but sometimes we are not left with any choices. Sometimes we got either to find someone new or to keep it inside.. thats what i usually do.. there is only one person i share 100% of what i feel and i truly believe and hope he will not prove the statement "people always leave"
@Mads -- well said mads.. :) :)
@Arv- thanks ARV.
@M.J - i m glad My post made u thoughtful. Ab saath peyenge
CHeeers
@Leena- at times we do make mistakes. It times things dnt wrk out. we can just try
Ex? What does that mean? I guess its a bond you share to disclose your secrets but most of the times it works againist you.
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